3 weeks out
- Choose the date and guest list; mix people who'll actually talk
- Send the invite with an RSVP date one week before
2 weeks out
- Plan a menu where at least half can be made ahead
- Ask about allergies and dietary needs
- Check you have enough matching plates, glasses and napkins
1 week out
- Confirm the headcount
- Buy wine and pantry items
- Plan the seating and make place cards
- Make the playlist
1 day out
- Shop for fresh ingredients and flowers
- Make dessert and any sauces or dressings
- Set the table; chill drinks
Day of
- Prep everything you can by early afternoon
- Clear the kitchen and run the dishwasher before guests arrive
- Set out a starter and a welcome drink so you're not cooking when the door opens
- Light candles and start the music
After
- Thank-you text the next morning